Questioning Existing Theories
As an economist by education and a data scientist by profession, I love to question existing theories and find connections and interpretability in problems using experiments and data intelligence. Today, I want to reflect on how to work on your social capital.
“How are you doing today?”
This is a question that has forever haunted me. Not only because I am an introvert and I feel awkward at social gatherings, but I honestly felt that I did not have a cool answer! It is so difficult to initiate a conversation with random people on calls, or conferences or at networking events. As a result of my lack of social skills, I have lost many opportunities to build relationships and fallen prey to miscommunication. However, over the years, I have found my own versions and have slowly adapted to such situations. I have read and gone through gazillions of articles and videos where experts have shown correct body language, eye contact and the exact right words to be used when you face this daunting question during a conversation. But something that I stumbled upon recently just blew my mind away!
Simple always works
It is important that you are aware of your own emotions and feelings. For starters, get comfortable with your own self to become socially comfortable. Keep it simple. Stay authentic. This was a revelation to me and I read lot of books, articles in order to understand further. Finally, I attempted what I do best. I created an experiment to learn how I am really doing internally and measure the state of my mind.
A measurement question
So let me help you understand what I mean. I structured a measurement question for myself
“How are you doing today?”
This is how it works. Measure yourself on a scale of 1-10 how are you feeling today.
1 being extreme crisis and you have hit the panic button. 10 being you are awesome, there is nothing stopping you!
The above scale above gives me clarity, direction and helps me identify my plan of action for the day. I have been a 1-2 and now I feel I am a 6-7. There is no need to panic if you find yourself on the lower end of the scale. I regularly try to stay connected, and seek feedback from my close network. Now, question is how do I rate myself? No, it is not based on guesses. Remember, humans are believers of logic and evidence.
The article I read summarizes the below questions to help you get to a rating for your “form” on a particular day.
Remember this is a guided scale and interpretations could be subjective. Note down results and monitor your patterns for a week to understand your “form”. Keep at it until it is internalized. This daily ritual has helped me stay true to myself and improved my authenticity.
Reflect and share
Stay inspired. Say hello to the warrior within you!